From GOSSIP TO GOSPEL - PART 2

In case you’re wondering why I chose to talk about gossiping, this was one of the tools the devil used in my life to destroy my relationships, and sadly, he’s still using this same tool in homes, companies and churches. At times, we fail to consider the weight of our words and their effect on others. We fail to think before we speak, and once the words are spoken…it is too late.

In James chapter 3, the writer spoke about the tongue. I hated hearing sermons on the tongue because my tongue was a loose one. It was deadly! In all honesty, it didn’t matter whether it was a pastor, friend, colleague or sibling; once I saw or heard something, I would talk about it. My tongue was not a vessel that brought glory to God, but rather, it brought dishonor. We must realize, without Christ in our lives we are under the control of the devil, and used as instruments of unrighteousness. The devil looks for vessels which he can use to destroy relationships, friendship, churches and marriages. He is like a roaring lion seeking someone to devour, and unfortunately, my tongue became a devouring tool.

I thought joining a group that involved ill-speaking others would help me look good, not knowing I was really hurting the people I called my friends and disappointing my family. Most of all, I was destroying my own image because once some people found out who I really was, they wanted nothing to do with me and ended our relationship. The same tool I thought would help me gain friends was the same tool that put an end to some of my friendships. How ironic.

Many who knew me then might be surprised to know I was that kind of person, because I tried to present myself as an innocent angel. 😊 Hence the reason I’m sharing my story to let you know of the transformation that has occurred in my life since putting my faith in Christ. Prior to God changing my life, I didn’t believe He loved me due to hurting so many people with my words. As a result, I struggled with negative thoughts which affected my self-esteem.

Although I struggled with gossiping, there were other areas in my life that were affected. I had become bitter, resentful and jealous. I truly didn’t like who I had become, and cried out to God to have mercy on me. I wanted to change. I wanted to get away from that lifestyle, but then a new set of ‘friends’ came along and I was back to the old me. Until one day…

“A troublemaker plants seeds of strife, gossip separates the best of friends.”

Proverbs 16:28